Comparing ourselves to others is something that most people experience. Whether it’s someone you know, on social media, or in the movies, it’s easy to look at what someone has that you don’t or that you want. I’m not going to lie, I have also been guilty of comparing myself to others. Not just as a blogger to other bloggers, but as a person and to go a level deeper a girl.
Comparing myself to others was quite an issue when I was younger. It was something that I’ve only figured out within the past few years. Now you might be thinking to yourself, how did I compare myself to others? It was little things that slowly turned into a much larger problem.
The little things were as simple as “she has pretty hair, why is my hair so bad” or “she looks good in a swimsuit because she has long legs, I’m short and squatty.” I’m sure these comments all seem normal, but they’re not healthy. Thinking like this can also be a slippery slope to losing confidence and thinking negatively towards yourself.
By comparing yourself to others in these ways, it can lead to losing self-confidence and a barrier of fear that will prevent you from moving forward. Now what I mean by a barrier of fear is that you will start thinking that you’re not good enough to do the things that you want to do or be the person that you want to be in life.
So if you find that comparing yourself to others, is something that you do on the regular. If you are losing your self-confidence or feeling bad about yourself, here are some helpful tips on how to you can stop.
1. Be aware and stop the negative self-talk
It’s essential that you recognize when you’re comparing yourself negatively. The more you’re aware, you can start mitigating these thoughts and comments. I might even go as far as to say, start saying positive things about yourself instead.
2. Turn off your social media
If you’re continually scrolling through social media and comparing your life to someone else’s, then the best thing to do is turn off your social media. I know I’m a blogger, and I’m supposed to want you on social media, but ultimately I want you to be healthy. You can always hop back on when you are in a better state. Also remember, people, are putting their best photos on social media, not their worst.
3. Socialize with positive and honest people
By being around people who are positive and honest with you, it will get you into the same mindset. Positivity and kindness are infectious. If you surround yourself with it, you will be in a better place. Stay away from anyone who is always putting you down. They are only feeling bad about themselves.
4. Try to understand why
Understanding why you are comparing is essential. The more you know about why you are feeling a certain way or having negative thoughts, the better it will equip you when fighting it.
5. Find a healthy outlet
Finding a healthy way to assist you with feeling and thinking like this is also important. Some outlets could include journaling, meditation, or seeking a therapist. The key thing is to find the best outlet that works for you.
I hope you found this helpful. I was in that unhealthy comparison state, and it took several years to get my confidence back and get myself to a healthy state. Remember that you’re good enough and exceptional in your unique way. No one can be you, and that’s pretty spectacular. Just remember, we are all here to help and inspire each other.
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